I understand that the tragedies of my life are no longer necessary to describe me. I can embrace these events instead as necessary to shape and define me. Make a list of all the times in your childhood, as I did, when you felt wounded, disconnected, and discounted. Embrace these moments that started you on the path of sleeping at the wheel and dying a little.
Once you go through the process of seeing these events as defining and shaping you rather than being tragic and unnecessary, you will begin to notice new life in your body. You will start to feel awake and more alive. You will begin to feel more at home.